Nappy Headed? Hos? Where do we start?

So here’s one version of the Don Imus story.  I read about it in my local paper and the reporter said something like the NAACP and Jesse Jackson are incensed about this.  Well?  Shouldn’t we all be?  Shouldn’t you and I–and every woman and man who has a daughter–be incensed? 

We can start with the Nappy Headed part of it, especially us white people who are incensed, too, though only black people and their organizations are quoted in the paper and online (which, of course, begs the question: why is that? but we won’t go there…today).

Because there’s also this part of it: girls with tattoos have got to be ‘hos.’  Right?  Girls.  Girls playing basketball. That’s all they are.  Young women who play basketball, and they get called ‘hos’ like it means nothing.  It means something.  It has to mean something.  Because that word has no comparative perjorative for men and when they use it they disrespect all of us, all of our daughters, all of our daughters’ daughters.

So I ask you who might listen to him (because I surely don’t and never will): is this how he talks about women in general or just young black women with tats? It’s not just inappropriate and Imus should be more than embarassed. He should be ashamed and shamed.

And we all should be calling him on it, regardless of our color or gender.  It’s not an issue of race. It’s not an issue of gender. It’s an issue about respect and disrespect.

Someone asked me once, “can a person squander their inherent worth and dignity?” 

Perhaps Don Imus just did.


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8 Responses to Nappy Headed? Hos? Where do we start?

  1. Carol says:

    I just surfed onto this site and since this topic is one I’ve been fuming about… thought I’d put my two cents in. I applaud the firing of this individual and was shocked to see a USA Today poll that said 90 percent of the responders do not agree. The ignorant people of this country are crying foul and looking to our right to free speech to bail out this racist while pointing fingers at our current culture and rap music. Wake up people! The only issue here is that Don Imus was an employee of a company that makes it’s money with paid advertising. The sponsors of his show are his critics. If his advertisers agreed with his right to free speech, they wouldn’t have pulled their ad dollars and CBS would not have fired him. Ultimately he is accountable to his employer and his employer had the nerve to say his behavior was unacceptable. If he had uttered this comment on a street corner – no one would have cared.


  2. Kaleigh says:

    And I voted for you there this morning!


  3. venessa says:

    Wanted to let you know I nominated you for best religion blog at bloggers choice. Spreading the love!


  4. venessa says:

    His show has been pulled from a LOT of places. Hopefully he is on his way out for good.


  5. Kaleigh says:

    You hit it all right on the nose. Indefensible. I heard the news story while my mom and I were making dinner, and we had the same reaction. If anyone said anything like that about my daughter, I tend to think he’d have a hard time saying ANYTHING afterward since my boot would be somewhere down his throat.


  6. Jan says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you.


  7. Suz says:

    The times that i’ve watched him, he’s often been less than tactful.



  8. mskitty says:

    I was appalled as well, Momma. We all ought to be outraged by his casual denigration of a terrific ball team because of some idea he has about what women ought to look like. Like many men, he has no idea what he has said or why it is so awful.


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